Midlife transition coaching for women
When you look in the mirror, do you still recognize the woman looking back?
This is where you come home to yourself in the middle of a big life shift, so you can hear your inner knowing again, trust it, and step into the woman you're becoming. I've lost myself more than once, and you don't have to do this alone.
Apply for coachingMidlife transition coach · Certified CBT life coach · Holistic health coach · E-RYT 200 + RYT 500
There's ground beneath your feet, even here.
Maybe the nest is empty, or a long relationship has changed shape, or the career you spent decades building has started to feel like golden handcuffs. Maybe nothing big happened at all, and you just looked up one day and realized you're standing at a crossroads with no idea which way to go.
On paper, you know what's changing. Inside, it can feel like limbo. You might be carrying real grief for the roles you're outgrowing, even while part of you is excited about what's next, and both of those can be true at the same time.
It's completely normal to feel scared, full of trepidation, and unsure of who you are when you aren't being "the mother," "the wife," or "the leader" anymore. You haven't lost your way, my friend. You're in the in-between, and you don't have to walk through it alone.
The shift looks different for everyone.
Most of the women I work with are the capable ones, the one everyone calls when something goes wrong. And then something shifts, and all of a sudden they don't feel like themselves anymore.
- Maybe it's an empty nest, and you keep walking past your kid's closed bedroom door, wondering what you even like to do now that you finally have some time for yourself.
- Maybe it's a divorce, or a relationship that ended or changed, and you're standing in the grocery store holding a jar of pasta sauce, realizing you don't know which one YOU like, because for years you bought the one everyone else liked.
- Maybe it's grief. You lost someone you can't imagine life without, and when people ask how you're doing, you say you're fine because you don't know what else to say.
- Maybe it's a career change or retirement, and so much of who you are was tied up in that role that you're not sure who you are without it.
- Maybe it's a big birthday on the horizon, and you've started taking inventory of everything you've put off and what you want the next ten years to hold.
- Maybe it's success. You checked all the boxes and did everything "right," and now you're not happy, and you feel guilty for even thinking that.
- Or maybe you're at a crossroads, and you've made the pros and cons list, called your sister, asked your best friend and two people from work, asked ChatGPT for good measure, and you still don't know what to do.
It doesn't really matter which one it is. From the outside you probably still look like you've got it all together. Inside, maybe you're waking up at 3 a.m. with your brain running, saying yes to things and resenting them all week, and telling yourself a woman like you should be able to figure this out on her own. I've been there too, more than once, so I get it.
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This is likely a fit if...
- You've built a life that works on paper and doesn't feel like yours anymore.
- You're in the middle of a shift, and you'd rather move through it with someone beside you than alone.
- You want somewhere to bring the real thing, instead of the version you tell everyone else.
- You're ready to be honest with yourself, even when the honest answer surprises you.
- Part of you suspects there's a bigger life waiting on the other side of this, and you want to find out what it looks like.
This is probably not the moment if...
- You're looking for a fixed program with a set curriculum to complete.
- You want someone to hand you the answer rather than help you find your own.
- You're moving through something that calls for clinical care. This work can sit alongside therapy, and it doesn't stand in for it.
- You'd rather stay where you are for now, which is a real and honest answer.
If you're nodding your head, you're in the right place.
I know this place because I've lost myself more than once.
When a long relationship ended at the end of 2010, I realized I'd been half of something instead of whole on my own, and I had no idea who I was. When my mom died in 2021, the grief was suffocating, and some days my practice was literally sitting on my mat to cry. And when I left my corporate career in 2025, my big trust fall, burnout hit hard, and instead of hitting the ground running I had to slow way down and take a real look at the life I'm building now.
Every time, what brought me home was getting out of my head, back into my body, and listening for my own answer. And what opened up on the other side was a deep, felt sense of trust that everything is coming together for my highest good, whether I can see it yet or not. That trust is what let me leave my corporate career before I had every piece figured out.
We all land at these crossroads more than once, so part of what I want for you is knowing how to come home to yourself the next time life shifts, too. I've been practicing for nearly 30 years and walking women back to themselves for the past 11, and that's exactly why I do this work one on one.
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You don't have to figure out your whole life at once. We take it step by step, and each step builds on the one before it.
Find your footing
We start where you are. We get clear on what's shifting, what you're grieving, and what feeling at home in yourself would actually look like for you now, so we're both walking toward the same thing.
Hear yourself again
We slow things down and settle your body, so the noise in your head can soften and you can hear what you really think. Together we notice the patterns that pull you away from yourself, like the automatic yes and the 3 a.m. overthinking.
Trust what you hear
You start making choices from that place in your real life, the hard conversation, the decision you've been putting off, the no you used to swallow. I'm in your pocket for the moments that count, so you're never guessing alone.
Step into who you're becoming
Once you trust yourself again, we look ahead. What do you want this next chapter to hold? We build it on purpose, one aligned step at a time, and you leave knowing how to come home to yourself the next time life shifts.
This is what changes when you're not doing it all alone.
Where you are now
Where you're headed
Lying awake at 3 a.m., running the same decision over and over
Making the call and trusting it, without polling everyone you know first
Living a life that fits everyone but you
Building a life that feels like yours, and letting yourself want more for it than you used to
Grieving the role you've outgrown, and maybe feeling guilty that part of you is relieved
Honoring who you were and feeling at home in who you're becoming
Saying yes to everything because you're afraid of letting people down
Saying no without a long explanation, and saying yes to the things that light you up
Wondering if it's too late for the thing you keep putting off
Saying it out loud, and taking the first real step toward it
Life will still happen, and something hard will still land in the middle of your week. The difference is that you'll know how to come back to yourself, and you'll trust what you hear when you get there. And from that steady place, the question gets a lot more fun. What do you want this next chapter to hold? What would you try if you trusted yourself completely?
I worked with a woman whose two kids were in high school and driving themselves around, and for the first time in as long as she could remember, she had time for herself. That's when she realized how long she'd been on the back burner. She wanted to go from sitting most of the day to being active again, and to make some mindful changes in what she was eating, but she didn't know where to start. So we started slow, with movement she actually enjoyed and small changes that fit her real life, and built from there. She was surprised by how simple it was, and she saw changes a lot faster than she expected. What she didn't expect was how far it would ripple out. Because she stuck with it, she had the energy to do more active things with her kids, and years later, with her grandkids too.
"I have learned acceptance of my limits, changing my self-talk, how to create a mindfulness practice, and so much more. Rachel is my motivation to always challenge myself to learn new things and accept myself where I am now. I definitely would recommend her as a yoga instructor, life coach, and friend."
Mary
— Renee
She's not here to sell you something, she's here to teach you something. Sometimes we think we know ourselves wholly, but the truth is, that isn't always the case. I think Rachel is good at bringing people to center and refocusing their own needs, and when you have a family, that benefits them as well. She's very responsive and understanding.
Here's what people love about working with me:
You've done the hard work of holding it all together.
You've kept going and taken care of everything and everyone, even when it cost you. Now it's your turn to be supported, and to find out what this next chapter could hold for you. If you're not sure you're ready, or it feels hard to trust yourself right now, that's exactly where we start.
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What women say about working with me
"Just do it! You are worth it and you deserve it. Think of what you want to achieve that you just haven't gotten around to. Talk to Rachel about it. She meets you where you are and opens your potential, providing guidance, check ins, breaking everything down, and just genuine care and understanding."
"Rachel met me where I was, helped me define my goals, and broke everything down so simply. She checked in with me every week as I needed and helped me in areas I was slipping in. I am completely shocked at the difference this has made in my life. I never thought I would be doing this well, let alone so quickly."
"Rachel's support was wonderful!!! First, she already gives you all the tools you need. And if you have questions along the way, she's always there with a helpful response."
"I so enjoyed working with Rachel. The concepts are simple but life changing."
